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| A friend told me that many girls really dislike it when their boyfriend
(or guy they are close with) says that he will call at a certain time
and the guy
ends up forgetting or calling later than promised. Naively, I
didn't initally understand the gravity of the situation. I mean sometimes we guys forget
out of being absentmind or something happens and causes a delay. Things happen;
it's no big deal right?
She said that
it's not so much getting the call but the lack thereof during the promised time. There
are emotions of worry that spawn when a guy doesn't come through during the
certain time... did something happen to him? Is he okay?
Therefore, try to come through with what you say in this
context and beyond this scenario (ie. showing up late to a date,
meeting, family gathering, etc.). Learn this well my male cohorts...
learn this well. I really didn't understand this, but now I do.
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| Ask any man who usually makes
the first move in courtship and he will invariably say that men do. A
studies into courtship, however, show that women are the initiators 90
percent of the time. A woman does this by sending a series of subtle
eye, body, and facial signals to the targeted man, who, assuming he is
perceptive enough to pick them up, responds to them. There are men who
will approach women in a club or bar without being sent the green light
but, whie some of these men are regularly successful with finding
partners, their overall statistical success rate is low because they
weren't invited first - they're simply playing the numbers game.
In
these cases, if a man detects that his approach will be unsuccessful,
he's likely to pretend he's come to talk to her about other unrelated
things and he will use corny lines like "You work at the National Bank,
don't you?" or "Aren't you John Smith's sister?" To be successful in
courtship by playing the numbers game, a man has to approach a lot of
women to make a sale - unless, of course, he looks like Brad Pitt. Any
man who crosses the floor to chat up awoman has usually done so at her
request after picking up her body-language signals. It just looks as if
he made the first move because he made the walk across the floor. Women
do initiate up to 90 percent of flirtatious encourters, but it is done
so subtly that most men think they are the ones taking the lead. | | |
| This domain is mine to talk and discuss about relationships, attraction, and sexuality. I will write objectively
from a secular point of view, so you will just have to bear with me and
stray from judgment. As much as I want to say that I have a lot of
experience with relationships, I really cannot. What I will be writing
will be from my own observations/limited experiences, the stories that
have been told, the relationships that I have lived vicariously
through, and the literature that I have read. I cannot back a lot of
the claims that I will be making, nor can I say what I will write is
truth. And as much as I want to say that everything that I write is
applicable to or for everyone, I simply cannot due to the fact that my
friends have been mostly Asian. Nonetheless, I hope that the readers
(especially women) will
contribute to the discussions so we (guys) can better understand each
other. I am no guru, so please take everything with a grain of salt. I
would like to also take an oath that none of my writing will be of
gossip.
It is my desire that every guy (including myself) will become more
attractive and better
lovers. I thank all the girls that have been in my life... the girls
that have shared their struggles... the girls that have taught me how
to become a better man, boyfriend, and future husband... the girls that I have "won" and
"lost"... the girls that have called me out on my fashion faux pas and bad habits. Every
girl has taught me something. These girls have taught me both failure and success. These
girls have allowed me to experience the spectrum of emotions from joy
to despair. I am at a point that I find peace in the relationships of
loss and negative feelings. For if it were not for these relationships, I would have never
found myself today.
This is to becoming a better man.
- Alex
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